Part Two: Integrity Loss and Recovery
commitment, sacrifice, and the impersonal nature of culture
© 2005 Antero Alli (updated 1/1/18)

 

SELF-TRUST AND THE FORCE OF COMMITMENT

There is no such thing as self-improvement. You cannot improve who you are; you already are who you are. You are not some kind of apprentice to yourself who will someday, with enough "self-improvement", become the real you. It is too late for that. You can wake up to who you are and accept yourself or, you can keep trying to improve this thing called "self", whatever that is. Who are you beyond your beliefs, assumptions, self-images, and ideas of who you are ? You are not only more than you think, you are more than you can think.

Total commitment feeds the being. The being is fed whenever, and however, we can hold a position of total unwavering commitment. The being does not fuss over appearances and forms. The being does not care about what you commit to or what it looks like. The being only cares that you commit all the way. Any full-on commitment is how the being knows itself. Without this experience, the being shrinks and succumbs to the dreary, dismal status of non-entities, wannabes, hungry ghosts of frustrated dreams.

Self-commitment means accountability for one's experiences, choices, actions, and their consequences. In the inner work of paratheatre, our firsthand experience serves as a source of authority, integrity, and autonomy. Before self-commitment can be increased, it may be necessary to expose any doubts, distrust, or negation that has been assigned to firsthand experience as an authority source. If we were raised in a family and/or schools that dismissed trust in your own experience, then self-trust has been neglected or damaged and must be re-earned. Trusting firsthand experience as an authority source expresses a time-intensive process of testing its legitimacy for ourselves. Once self-trustcan be established, we are more free to interact with others and the world from a place of personal integrity. We are ready to develop reality-based relationships free of wanting approval or acceptance for what we already know from firsthand experience. Seeking external confirmation for what we already know to be true may be the final obstacle to self-empowerment.

 

SACRIFICE, INTEGRITY, THE LIFE & DEATH WISHES

To sacrifice means to "make sacred". Any act of real sacrifice unleashes torrents of creative and psychic force. Sacrifice renders the ground of our being fertile for the act of planting seeds of new behaviors, new ideas, new beliefs, new habits and new rituals. To release something or someone we have grown attached to, that has given us much comfort and/or has become near and dear to our hearts, catalyzes a radical change that can result in a transformation of being -- and not merely a temporary change of state.

A culture's sacrificial rituals expose whatever must be released, offered and/or given away for that culture to persist and/or reinvent itself. What needs releasing for any culture to survive often manifests as what is killing that culture. Previously vital sustaining rituals can, over time and repetition, calcify into dead routines and rote rituals. Bali, one of the world's oldest originating cultures, has kept its culture alive for centuries by an undying commitment to daily ritual offerings and sacrifices. (Also read "A Human Sacrifice" by Matt Mitler, director of Theatre Dzieci).

Integrity can be measured by the degree of commitment we demonstrate. Our integrity exists wherever we are willing and able to commit 100 per cent. Where (or what or who) are you willing and able to stand behind 100% without wavering? If there is any place in your life -- no matter how small or seemingly inconsequential -- that you can stand behind this 100%, that's where you will find total integrity. If you cannot find any place to stand behind without wavering, then perhaps your integrity exists in a commitment to wavering.

At its root, the force of commitment is rooted in deeper survival instincts for how committed we are to being on the planet. If you are still alive and breathing, some part of you remains committed to being on the planet. Our conscious lives are shaped by deeper unconscious forces of the death-wish and the life-wish. If you feel grave doubt or are deeply conflicted about being on the planet, the death-wish is winning. When you are fully commited to being on the planet, the life-wish wins.

What makes your life worth living? What makes our lives worth living, without which our lives would not be worth living? At some point in our lives, we must face these depth questions of what we are living for: life or death. Until then, we are second-guessing our reasons for being. The death-wish and life-wish express distinct dynamics of the totality of our being; they are not separated at root. Each posseses a purpose and function in relation to the whole. Sometimes, it's best that certain habits or behaviors are allowed to die off; the death-wish becomes relevant here. Other times, certain productive areas in our lives suffer weakness or insecurity; commiting to the life-wish can help there. Once we have discovered any area of our lives that we can stand behind 100% without wavering, that force of commitment can be redirected to assist other areas in our life suffering from integrity loss or, lack of follow-through.

 

INTEGRITY LOSS AND THE IMPERSONAL NATURE OF CULTURE

Integrity loss is not always a personal problem; it is not entirely our fault that we lack self-commitment and the power of follow-through. We live in an era where integrity loss expresses a cultural casualty common to any hyper-materialistic, death-ignorant society morally fractured by its own spiritual bankruptcy. Many of us endure this spiritual damage as some kind of private burden we carry for the impersonal culture of society. Even though this damage is actually not personal to us -- who can take credit ? -- many of us have mistakenly shouldered the burden of impersonal culture as a personal cause. What a complete waste of time and energy! The impersonal culture of society does not, cannot, care about the person. Society at large acts like a corporation that uses the person to advance its impersonal agendas.

Those who drop the impersonal burden of this cultural guilt do not become free of suffering. They become free of the impersonal social culture of suffering that depersonalizes the populace identified with its impersonal corporate mission. Only after we embrace the honest burden of our own existence can we see how futile it can be to take on the tragedy of the world. When we are fully accountable for our own lives, we are less likely to believe we are accountable for saving the world or the planet. The world does not need saving. The world is full of people who need saving from themselves. Exceptions are obviously reserved for those raising children who are not fully accountable for their survival until grow-up time arrives, until they are "of age".

Shirking the impersonal culture of guilt does not mean shying away from helping others. It means we need more awareness around how we actually can and cannot help each other. Not everyone needs or wants to be saved or awakened from the trance of impersonal cultural identification. Try breaking the spell of anyone resigned to the comfort of spiritual sleep and you will face the gnashing of teeth, the bearing of claws. Sometimes, the naive gestures of helping others can be experienced as offensive, invasive, or insulting to those being "helped". If we are to actually assist others, we must first relax our personal agendas so we may discover more truth about them: their values, their history, their allegiances, and beliefs. Otherwise, we may be simply imposing our so-called help where it actually alienates or insults others.

Not all suffering is meaningful. Suffering is meaningless when it results in a meaningless life. Meaningful suffering results in a meaningful life. Though suffering may be unavoidable, not all suffering is meaningless. Look to the results of your suffering to determine whether it's actually meaningful or pointless. Meaningful suffering often results after any honest self-confrontation with the existing conditions of our actual (not ideal) lives, i.e., not the life we wanted or believed we should or could have had, if only things were different. No -- I’m talking about your actual life. Don't confuse this self-exposure with fatalism. There's a living mystery pulsing within the heart of existence - - that we exist at all is a mystery! By exposing ourselves to the existing conditions of our lives, we can experience the dimension of this mystery firsthand and, at some point, become aware how we have been embodying this mystery all along without knowing it. We are the mystery.

 


MANIFESTO LINKS

 

Part One: Orientation
culture, paratheatre, verticality, the asocial climate

Part Three: The Performer/Audience Romance
talent and skill, the total act, the No-Form technique

Part Four: Self-Observation and Ego
function of ego, embracing contraries, emotional plague

Part Five: Self-initiation
on the bridge between the worlds and
what drains the power of dreaming